This weekend has been a challenge. This summer the hubs got a herniated disc in his back when he was playing with some kids in his class. He's been to chiropractors, doctors, acupunturists...nothing has helped. So, Friday he got a shot in the spine, with another one to follow in a couple of weeks. I knew I would be in a few waiting rooms, so I cut up some fabric for hexagons. I like to keep my hands busy and not just sit in the waiting room surfing the internet.
About 3 hours into the wait, my mother-in-law called me to tell me my sister-in-law had a miscarriage. They have tried SO hard to get pregnant for the last 10 years, she finally got to the 13 week mark, and now this. I couldn't keep it together. I threw my sewing in the basket and tried to get out of the waiting room faster than my sobs were coming. I am just crushed for them. I know people go thru this kind of thing all the time, but it doesn't make it any easier to understand. After I pulled myself together, I worked on more of my hexagons.
It helped. The slow, easy work just helped my brain to untangle and think about what had happened and how I could help. We went to their house as soon as we could, just to be there and offer a shoulder to cry on. It has been an emotional weekend. I continued to steal moments to work on my sewing....the therapy I received was just unexplained. I prayed, cried, and found peace with every stitch. I still grieve for them and for their baby, so hoped and prayed for. But I know they will find a way to move forward.
Oh sweetie. I had no idea. I will pray. I love you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your sister-in-law. I'm glad you've found a little peace withnyour quilting.
ReplyDeleteI know from personal experience that EPP is the best therapy. My hubby had the same injury and he had to change jobs. A very tough year in our lives, but God was faithful ; ) thinking of you!
ReplyDeletewhat a beautiful post - so REAL. and how wonderful of you to recognize her as a mother and to recognize that she truly has lost - unfortunately, so many people do not understand that, and offhanded comments make healing the worst. one thing i would suggest is giving her a small momento to help memorialize her baby - either a homemade gift, or a necklace or something. mothers of miscarriage - especially earlier ones - don't always have anything concrete to save in memory of their child.
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