Monday, October 22, 2012

Quilting as Therapy?

This weekend has been a challenge.  This summer the hubs got a herniated disc in his back when he was playing with some kids in his class.  He's been to chiropractors, doctors, acupunturists...nothing has helped.  So, Friday he got a shot in the spine, with another one to follow in a couple of weeks.  I knew I would be in a few waiting rooms, so I cut up some fabric for hexagons.  I like to keep my hands busy and not just sit in the waiting room surfing the internet.  


About 3 hours into the wait, my mother-in-law called me to tell me my sister-in-law had a miscarriage.  They have tried SO hard to get pregnant for the last 10 years, she finally got to the 13 week mark, and now this.  I couldn't keep it together.  I threw my sewing in the basket and tried to get out of the waiting room faster than my sobs were coming.  I am just crushed for them.  I know people go thru this kind of thing all the time, but it doesn't make it any easier to understand.  After I pulled myself together, I worked on more of my hexagons.


It helped.  The slow, easy work just helped my brain to untangle and think about what had happened and how I could help. We went to their house as soon as we could, just to be there and offer a shoulder to cry on.  It has been an emotional weekend.  I continued to steal moments to work on my sewing....the therapy I received was just unexplained.  I prayed, cried, and found peace with every stitch.  I still grieve for them and for their baby, so hoped and prayed for.  But I know they will find a way to move forward.  









4 comments:

  1. Oh sweetie. I had no idea. I will pray. I love you.

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  2. I'm so sorry for your sister-in-law. I'm glad you've found a little peace withnyour quilting.

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  3. I know from personal experience that EPP is the best therapy. My hubby had the same injury and he had to change jobs. A very tough year in our lives, but God was faithful ; ) thinking of you!

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  4. what a beautiful post - so REAL. and how wonderful of you to recognize her as a mother and to recognize that she truly has lost - unfortunately, so many people do not understand that, and offhanded comments make healing the worst. one thing i would suggest is giving her a small momento to help memorialize her baby - either a homemade gift, or a necklace or something. mothers of miscarriage - especially earlier ones - don't always have anything concrete to save in memory of their child.

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